He doesn’t mean to hurt me-he just loses control." “He can be sweet and gentle." “He’s scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he’s a great father." “He’s had a really hard life…" Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with: The early warning signs. Nine abusive personality types. How to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will. The role of drugs and alcohol, What can be fixed, and what can’t, How to leave a relationship safely This volume offers women guidelines on how to improve and survive an abusive relationship, discussing various types of abusive men, analyzing societal myths surrounding abuse, and answering questions about the warning signs of abuse.

Can my partner abuse me and still be a good parent? Should I stay with my partner for my children’s sake? How should I talk to my children about the abuse and help them heal? Am I a bad mother?
Mothers in physically or emotionally abusive relationships ask themselves these questions every day. Here, a counselor reveals how abusers interact with and manipulate children-and how mothers can help their children recover from the trauma of witnessing abuse.
This book, the first ever of its kind, shows mothers how to:

• Protect children and help them heal emotionally
• Provide love, support, and positive role models, even in the midst of abuse
• Increase their chances of winning custody
• Help their kids feel good about themselves

In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward-with or without their partners.
Women involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to:

• Tell the difference between a healthy-yet-difficult relationship and one that is really not working
• Recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problem
• Stop waiting to see what happens-and make their own growth the top priority
• Prepare for life without their partner-even as they keep trying to make the relationship work

Millions of women each year find themselves in relationships with controlling or abusive partners and don’t know what to do, or even what’s wrong. A woman may feel anxious, inadequate, intimidated — and as if she is walking on tiptoe. And she may find herself trying harder and harder to make things right without ever being successful. Ann Jones and Susan Schechter bring together their more than fifteen years of experience working with women in abusive relationships to offer an eye-opening new analysis of controlling partners and a wealth of empowering information for women who want to change their lives for the better. Full of moving first-person stories, When Love Goes Wrong shows women what their options are in or out of the relationship, provides concrete guidance on finding safety and support for themselves and their children, and includes a comprehensive list of agencies offering information or assistance.

Crossing the Bridge is a comprehensive, interactive book for use with individuals or groups. The purpose of this book is to provide a guide, a starting point for self-discovery and the enhancement of people’s quality of life.
Crossing the Bridge is a collection of ideas and worksheets which have been written and implemented from Sandy’s therapeutic work of the past twenty years. It is based on the fundamental concepts of self-esteem development.
This book is FILLED with meaningful stories, easy-to-read but challenging self-esteem lessons, and tried and true reproducible activity handouts and journalizing pages. Includes facilitator’s section for the leader.

Ages 16 – Adults. This book is a practical resource addressing domestic violence prevention and intervention. This collection of 72 reproducible worksheets will help individuals and couples develop skills for creating and maintaining healthy relationships. The program can be easily customized for group facilitators working with older teens and adults. Each of 50 topics covered has one or more reproducible worksheets and a facilitator’s information sheet. The language, illustrations and content are applicable to diverse client populations, including male and female perpetrators and survivors of domestic violence, people in same-sex relationships, adults healing from childhood exposure to violence and people in nonviolent relationshipsTell the difference between a healthy-yet-difficult relationship and one that is really not working

• Recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problem
• Stop waiting to see what happens-and make their own growth the top priority
• Prepare for life without their partner-even as they keep trying to make the relationship work

With one out of eleven high school students in the past year experiencing some form of physical abuse — being hit, slapped, or physically hurt on purpose by a boyfriend or girlfriend — young adults need to know where they can turn for help. Even more teens (as high as ninety-six percent) reported emotional and psychological abuse in their relationships.

This revised and updated edition for teenagers who have questions about abusive dating relationships helps them understand the causes and consequences of their situation, learn what they can do about it, find help from parents and other adults, and discover how to build healthier relationships. In Love and in Danger is one of the only books available on dating violence and abusive relationships that addresses young adults directly in a straightforward and non-condescending manner. Included are facts about dating violence, tips for how to tell if your relationship is abusive, information on why dating abuse happens, and what you can do if you are being abused by (or are abusing) someone you love. Packed with practical advice and compelling interviews with teens, this edition features updated information and statistics, an expanded resource section, and a new afterword by the author.

Miles, a nationally recognized expert in the field of domestic violence and teen relationship violence, explores the complex issue of teen dating violence. Through interviews and other research, he provides critical information that parents, caregivers, clergy, and educators can use to protect teens and help them foster healthy dating relationships. Miles offers thoughtful advice and answers to such questions as: What constitutes violence in teen dating relationships? Why is the problem so pervasive? What are the warning signs that parents and other caring adults can watch for that may indicate a teen is being either abused or abusive? And what can the church do to help?

Teens who have been abused need information and support to begin the healing process. They may not be willing or able to approach family members; they may not know how to start coping with the effects of these traumatizing events. Written by a psychologist who has worked with abused kids and teens for more than a decade, WHEN SOMETHING FEELS WRONG is for adolescents searching for positive ways to deal with their history of abuse. The approach is informative, realistic, and encouraging. The emphasis throughout is on the need to talk about the abuse, get help, and know that abuse is never the victim’s fault. Includes checklists, examples, journaling ideas, and resources. Written to and for teens, this book belongs in all school and public libraries, counselors’ offices, doctors’ offices, and social-service agencies.

From Stedman Graham, the bestselling author of Teens Can Make It Happen, comes an activity-filled workbook designed to help teens realize their full potential. The Teens Can Make It Happen Workbook is packed with entertaining exercises that will show you how to work your way through Graham’s nine steps to success.
The workbook teaches the nine steps discussed in Teens Can Make It Happen, along with a variety of fun, thought-provoking, and, ultimately, life-changing activities for those ready and willing to make it happen. From group activities to self-tests to journaling, the workbook is filled with relevant and practical exercises for any teen looking to make that journey to adulthood an easy one. You will learn ways to create a whole new vision of how to use your talents and desires to become your best. In order to achieve this vision, Graham stresses, you must believe in the possibility of your success in order to have a strong sense of self-understanding and awareness.
Written in an entertaining and interactive style, Graham bridges the gap between education and the real world and, in addition, shows you how to boost self-esteem, avoid peer pressure, and handle the stresses of daily life that are part of being a young adult.
As founder of Athletes Against Drugs, an organization created to combat drug abuse and promote youth leadership, Graham knows how to talk to teenagers. Whether used as a companion to Teens Can Make It Happen or on its own, the Teens Can Make It Happen Workbook shows you how to take control of your life, and, consequently, your destiny.

Ages 13 – 18. This activity-based workbook for professionals helps adolescents develop healthy, intimate relationships and prevent dating abuse and domestic violence. Appropriate for males and females, ages 12 – 20, in groups or individual sessions. This book offers both educational and experimental components pertaining to this subject. The 50 activities include 68 reproducible worksheet pages plus 50 facilitator information sheets.
Organized into 6 sections:

• Evaluating Your Relationships,
• Understanding Abuse,
• Social Influences,
• Building Healthy Relationships,
• Making Good Decisions,
• Review

It’s never too soon for children to learn that violence is never okay, hands can do many good things, and everyone is capable of positive, loving actions.

In this bright, inviting, durable board book, simple words and full-color illustrations teach these important concepts in ways even very young children can understand.

Created in response to requests from parents, preschool teachers, and childcare providers, this book belongs everywhere young children are. Includes tips for parents and caregivers.

The older children get, the more words they know and can use—including hurtful words. This book teaches children that their words belong to them: They can think before they speak, then choose what to say and how to say it. It also explores positive ways to respond when others use unkind words and reinforces the importance of saying “I’m sorry.” Includes tips for parents and caregivers.

Henry, Claire, and Joe hate it when their parents fight. The fighting often wakes them from a sound sleep, causing Claire and Joe to cry. The crying makes their father angrier–sometimes he even hits their mother.

The ABC’s of Anger contains easy-to-read stories involving some aspect of the theme “anger". It provides children with an awareness of differing degrees of anger and helps them explore choices for responding when they are angry. Each story begins with a letter of the alphabet – the first letter of both an animal’s name and its behavior. A picture and short story about the character follow as well as a definition of the characteristic being described. These pictures and stories may be photocopied and distributed for younger children to color and for older students to add cartoon speech balloons. The lesson on the facing page includes questions that the teacher may use to initiate discussion. It is hoped, however, that student responses and questions will lead to a more personalized dialogue with the teacher acting as a discussion facilitator. Follow-up activities conclude each lesson, and these, too, may be adapted to suit the needs of the class.

Sherman Smith saw the most terrible thing happen. At first he tried to forget about it, but soon something inside him started to bother him. He felt nervous for no reason. Sometimes his stomach hurt. He had bad dreams. And he started to feel angry and do mean things, which got him in trouble. Then he met Ms. Maple, who helped him talk about the terrible thing that he had tried to forget. Now Sherman is feeling much better. This gently told and tenderly illustrated story is for children who have witnessed any kind of violent or traumatic episode, including physical abuse, school or gang violence, accidents, homicide, suicide, and natural disasters such as floods or fire. An afterword by Sasha J. Mudlaff written for parents and other caregivers offers extensive suggestions for helping traumatized children, including a list of other sources that focus on specific events

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